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The profiles as shapesOCEAN
Similarity80%80% alike across the five traits
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You two as a couple

What your personalities can mean for Fox and Circe day to day: what you have going for you, where you differ, and what is worth talking about. A surprising fact first: couples tend to be alike in values and attitudes, but most are hardly more alike in personality than two random people. Being different is the norm, not a problem.

What you have going for you

You share levels that research links with happier relationships. These traits matter beyond the relationship too: in a large review, low neuroticism, high agreeableness and high conscientiousness predicted a lower risk of divorce about as strongly as socioeconomic status – income and education – did.

  • Both highAgreeableness

    You are both warm, cooperative and willing to give way. High agreeableness in both partners is one of the most consistent findings in couples research. It makes it easier to forgive, to see the other's side and to end disagreements well.

Where you differ

Differences are normal and can complement each other, but they often show up in the same everyday situations. Here is what research and experience say to look out for, with questions to talk about.

  1. CConscientiousnessClearly different · 35 points
    Fox 30Circe 65

    Circe likes order, plans and getting things done, while Fox is more flexible and spontaneous. This often shows up in housework, money, punctuality and planning: what counts as tidy, when a bill is paid, and how far ahead a holiday is booked. It is not a warning sign in itself: in a 12-year study of long marriages, midlife couples who were alike in conscientiousness grew less satisfied over time than couples who were different.

    Biggest differences: Cautiousness (Circe +82), Orderliness (Circe +31)

    What you can give each other

    Circe can make sure things get done, and Fox can help Circe relax, improvise and enjoy the moment when plans change.

  2. EExtraversionSomewhat different · 26 points
    Fox 38Circe 64

    Circe gets energy from people and activity, while Fox needs more quiet time to recharge. In one study, people who differed in extraversion reported more frequent conflict, especially about practical matters: how many plans you make, how weekends are spent, how long you stay at a party, and how much time you spend just the two of you.

    Biggest differences: Activity Level (Circe +44), Excitement-Seeking (Circe +19)

    What you can give each other

    Circe can bring Fox along to new people and experiences, and Fox can give Circe calm, depth and a reason to slow down.

  3. NNeuroticismSomewhat different · 24 points
    Circe 36Fox 60

    Fox feels worry, stress and setbacks more strongly, while Circe usually stays calm. In one long-term study, a difference in neuroticism went together with lower satisfaction over time, especially for the men. It can easily feel as though the calmer one is untouched while the more sensitive one is alone with the worry.

    Biggest differences: Vulnerability (Fox +50), Anxiety (Fox +25)

    What you can give each other

    Circe can be a steady anchor when things are hard, and Fox often notices early when something is wrong and says how it feels.

Where you are alike

Being alike makes many things easy, but nobody covers what you both find hard. A 12-year study of long marriages even found that couples who were more alike grew less satisfied over time than couples who were more different.

  • Both highOpenness To Experience

    You share curiosity and inspire each other with new ideas and experiences. The pitfall: much can be started and less finished, and stability can lose out.

Questions for an evening together

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CConscientiousness

What does 'tidy enough' mean for each of you?

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What personality can and cannot tell you

Personality explains only a small part of how happy couples are. In a study of more than 11,000 couples, what happens in the relationship itself – feeling that your partner is committed, appreciation, intimacy and how you handle conflict – mattered far more than personality or other individual traits. In the largest studies, couples who are alike are not happier on average than couples who are different. And in existing relationships, feeling that you are alike goes together with liking each other, while actually being alike does not. Understanding each other matters more than matching – that is what the questions are for.

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Research behind couple mode
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  • Dyrenforth, P. S., Kashy, D. A., Donnellan, M. B., & Lucas, R. E. (2010). Predicting relationship and life satisfaction from personality in nationally representative samples from three countries. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 99(4), 690–702. doi.org/10.1037/a0020385
  • Joel, S., et al. (2020). Machine learning uncovers the most robust self-report predictors of relationship quality across 43 longitudinal couples studies. PNAS, 117(32), 19061–19071. doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1917036117
  • Karney, B. R., & Bradbury, T. N. (1995). The longitudinal course of marital quality and stability. Psychological Bulletin, 118(1), 3–34. doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.118.1.3
  • Luo, S., & Klohnen, E. C. (2005). Assortative mating and marital quality in newlyweds: A couple-centered approach. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 88(2), 304–326. doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.88.2.304
  • Malouff, J. M., et al. (2010). The Five-Factor Model of personality and relationship satisfaction of intimate partners: A meta-analysis. Journal of Research in Personality, 44(1), 124–127. doi.org/10.1016/j.jrp.2009.09.004
  • Markey, P. M., & Markey, C. N. (2007). Romantic ideals, romantic obtainment, and relationship experiences: The complementarity of interpersonal traits among romantic partners. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 24(4), 517–533. doi.org/10.1177/0265407507079241
  • Montoya, R. M., Horton, R. S., & Kirchner, J. (2008). Is actual similarity necessary for attraction? A meta-analysis of actual and perceived similarity. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 25(6), 889–922. doi.org/10.1177/0265407508096700
  • Roberts, B. W., Kuncel, N. R., Shiner, R., Caspi, A., & Goldberg, L. R. (2007). The power of personality: The comparative validity of personality traits, socioeconomic status, and cognitive ability for predicting important life outcomes. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 2(4), 313–345. doi.org/10.1111/j.1745-6916.2007.00047.x
  • Shiota, M. N., & Levenson, R. W. (2007). Birds of a feather don't always fly farthest: Similarity in Big Five personality predicts more negative marital satisfaction trajectories in long-term marriages. Psychology and Aging, 22(4), 666–675. doi.org/10.1037/0882-7974.22.4.666
  • Weidmann, R., Purol, M. F., Alabdullah, A., Ryan, S. M., Wright, E. G., Oh, J., & Chopik, W. J. (2023). Trait and facet personality similarity and relationship and life satisfaction in romantic couples. Journal of Research in Personality, 104, 104378. doi.org/10.1016/j.jrp.2023.104378
  • Weidmann, R., Schönbrodt, F. D., Ledermann, T., & Grob, A. (2017). Concurrent and longitudinal dyadic polynomial regression analyses of Big Five traits and relationship satisfaction: Does similarity matter? Journal of Research in Personality, 70, 6–15. doi.org/10.1016/j.jrp.2017.04.003

Trait by trait

The bars show both profiles on each trait. The closer the bars, the more alike you are.

  1. OOpenness To ExperienceVery similar
    Fox77%
    Circe81%
  2. CConscientiousness35 points apart
    Fox30%
    Circe65%
  3. EExtraversion26 points apart
    Fox38%
    Circe64%
  4. AAgreeableness12 points apart
    Fox73%
    Circe85%
  5. NNeuroticism24 points apart
    Fox60%
    Circe36%
Biggest differenceConscientiousness

Fox scores low and Circe scores high on conscientiousness. This is where you draw energy and thrive in different ways, and a good place to start the conversation.

Most alikeOpenness To Experience

On openness to experience you are almost identical. What you share here is often easy to take for granted.

O

Openness To Experience

Fox 77%HighCirce 81%High

Openness to Experience describes a dimension of cognitive style that distinguishes imaginative, creative people from down-to-earth, conventional people.

Facets

  • Fox
  • Circe
  1. Imagination
    Fox18 of 20
    Circe18 of 20
  2. Artistic Interests
    Fox18 of 20
    Circe17 of 20
  3. Emotionality
    Fox10 of 20
    Circe17 of 20
  4. Adventurousness
    Fox16 of 20
    Circe15 of 20
  5. Intellect
    Fox20 of 20
    Circe19 of 20
  6. Liberalism
    Fox16 of 20
    Circe16 of 20
C

Conscientiousness

Fox 30%LowCirce 65%High

Conscientiousness concerns the way in which we control, regulate, and direct our impulses.

Facets

  • Fox
  • Circe
  1. Self-Efficacy
    Fox13 of 20
    Circe14 of 20
  2. Orderliness
    Fox4 of 20
    Circe9 of 20
  3. Dutifulness
    Fox16 of 20
    Circe19 of 20
  4. Achievement-Striving
    Fox6 of 20
    Circe13 of 20
  5. Self-Discipline
    Fox9 of 20
    Circe13 of 20
  6. Cautiousness
    Fox5 of 20
    Circe18 of 20
E

Extraversion

Fox 38%AverageCirce 64%High

Extraversion is marked by pronounced engagement with the external world.

Facets

  • Fox
  • Circe
  1. Friendliness
    Fox8 of 20
    Circe16 of 20
  2. Gregariousness
    Fox5 of 20
    Circe6 of 20
  3. Assertiveness
    Fox18 of 20
    Circe16 of 20
  4. Activity Level
    Fox9 of 20
    Circe16 of 20
  5. Excitement-Seeking
    Fox11 of 20
    Circe14 of 20
  6. Cheerfulness
    Fox9 of 20
    Circe17 of 20
A

Agreeableness

Fox 73%HighCirce 85%High

Agreeableness reflects individual differences in concern with cooperation and social harmony. Agreeable individuals value getting along with others.

Facets

  • Fox
  • Circe
  1. Trust
    Fox12 of 20
    Circe16 of 20
  2. Morality
    Fox15 of 20
    Circe20 of 20
  3. Altruism
    Fox16 of 20
    Circe19 of 20
  4. Cooperation
    Fox19 of 20
    Circe20 of 20
  5. Modesty
    Fox18 of 20
    Circe13 of 20
  6. Sympathy
    Fox14 of 20
    Circe18 of 20
N

Neuroticism

Fox 60%AverageCirce 36%Low

Neuroticism refers to the tendency to experience negative feelings.

Facets

  • Fox
  • Circe
  1. Anxiety
    Fox13 of 20
    Circe9 of 20
  2. Anger
    Fox7 of 20
    Circe6 of 20
  3. Depression
    Fox14 of 20
    Circe12 of 20
  4. Self-Consciousness
    Fox18 of 20
    Circe13 of 20
  5. Immoderation
    Fox18 of 20
    Circe15 of 20
  6. Vulnerability
    Fox12 of 20
    Circe4 of 20